Everyone has its own personal lifestyle to follow to. Some might find something and someway important. I am a very particular person, things that I do, i wanted to be perfect, as according to plan and my own target, becos I believe, everyone should have their own target to achieve in order to call it LIFE.
Its already a yr plus since he proposed to me. And we are married (legally). Custom marriage is another things that chinese go thru with lots of taditional to follow. But I believe, its the traditional things that makes the whole marriage interesting, but somehow tiring. If you have an eldery at home, perhapes it will be a super traditional marriage. However, coming from my mum, she seem to have let go of a few traditional way of dos and dont. So.. the left over is for us to follow or not. As for me, I think its good to carry on which was being pass down. But my hubby dont think so. He find it troublesome. Find it useless in following.
At the start, he proposing of marriage was the world most simple way. A nerd can do better honestly, but it does matter, since he is always the "low profile" kind and find being too much is being too much, Perhaps, I am not worth doing so ba.
Than he oppose to my idea of hving a holiday marriage, which I proposed to just ROM and we should on our way for honeymoon. He insist to have a banquet, so as to announce and a way to let his relatives and friends know he is married. FINE... hv his way.. we make a simple one
Than he say everything shouldnt be too complicated and mah fan. Every dreams idea I propose was a hassle to him. Its a waste of money to him.
I dont understand... yes, Dream Wedding does require alot of money to be spend on. Isnt that I mentioned before. If money is an issue, than why have one? Why not just ROM take wedding photo and end it there?
If we are gg to be having a wedding, than isnt it suppose to be a memorable one? Something that when we look back... we are happy to know what we have done. To me... its only once in a lifetime. Its either dont do it or do it. If we going to do it, why not spend the money happily? Money spend can earn back, but once the moment is gone its gone/
I want cupcake on my wedding, he said its not necessary
I want candy bar for my wedding, he said not necessary
I wish to have videographer, he said its too ex and not necessary
I wish to get a Digital Guest book, so that guest can hv their photo together with the wishing in one, he said so ex.
I want to get another instant photo with photographer and digital guest book together, he said no point.
I wanted a King size bed, he was reluctant, but give in later
I want to do a nice Ang bao box, he was entertaining me a way that ask me dont bother to be so mah fan
I wanted so much for extra photos.. he hints me that he is not willing to pay more for that.
I want to go Korea for honeymoon,and shopping, he ask how much
I change my mind to go Europe, since he said its nice, than he said its expensive, follow by its not safe
I decide we should go Maldives instead, cos it will be now or never, He was nagging and complaining about the whole cost.
Well... I dunno... how many time in a year or our life do we do the above? twice? three time? No.. its once in our life.. other than we intend to get married again. And yes, he is paying for the above becos I have no saving, and that is partly the reason why I told him we shouldnt married. We can simply just stay together... that is the most saving type of living.
His double standard had really push my limit. I dunno how long can this marriage stand. 1 yr? 2yr? As I can already see him opposing all my wish and wants. If its not for him. I would be in New Zealand I suppose.... Am I regretting? I never regret knowing him or marrying him. I only start to regret that morning when I said "yes I do" And I can go back and change it... guess things will be different, I really hope I didnt make the wrong choice.
No matter what is it, I hope my husband is who I think he is and willing to put in effort and walk with me till we appreciate the winkles on us.
