When a relationship failed, we always come to a point when we asked ourself "N" timessssss... Why?
You will never know the reason why a person change, you will not understand how can a person who said loves you will just leave you for the most stupid reason, the person who cares so much for you can divert their love to someone else, the one who is always there for you no longer there.
When a relationship failed, it fails, If you want to walk out from it as soon as possible, think ahead, dont ask why he/she leaves you. Ask what should I do better for the next relationship.
If you can fall in love with this asshole/bitch, you definitely can love again on the next one you meet. Its the matter of how open you can be after the hurt you gone through.
In a laid man term, we always blame our heart for being stupid to believe, to trust and to love the one that hurt you. But it is because of the hurt, you love before. If he/she doesnt, he/she dont love you at the first place. The inital talks that they give are all lies, isnt it the best thing to realize the lies? And of cause we would rather live happily in the lies than knowing the truth. Who doesnt? But trust me, the lies would not last.
When alot of people tells you "time heals". IT DOES. The most scary thing about our human brain is, we forget, we change. We might still remember the hurt we had before, but the pain wont last that long. you will hate the person still, but the it wont last that long either.
I always blame myself when a relationship failed. Many of my friends said I shouldnt as it is not my fault.
Yes I know. But blaming the other party bring the more damage. I am not blaming myself till the extend that I feel that everything is my fault. But I blame myself for trusting the person who hurts me, I blame myself for relying to much on the person who hurt me, I blame myself for not knowing it earlier and I blame myself for not believing how I feel earlier. If I realise all those above hurt is not what I am feeling.
How many of us already have that feeling that its going to happen? How many time we already feel that its not going to last. How often do we feel that something is not right? Yet, we blind ourselves with the uncertainty and carry on to pretend we are happy? And of all these, who else should we blame?
Dont feel sad to be on your own again, be brave, be happy. I would rather be myself who hurt me than with someone who dont love me and hurt me again and again.
Remember the pain. Learned from it, achieve the "walk out" success. Feel alive, love ourselves.
At the least, times really heal, and single is GREAT!!
