Being in a relationship

It is often than not when you are single, you look forward for someone to be with you, share all the laughter, joy and happiness with you. hug u when u feel sad, offer his shoulder when u cry. company u when u feel stress, listen to u when u are angry. But when you are attached, you miss those single hood days where you dont have to bother about the other half, how they feel, they think about you, look at you and schedule every moment of your time with them.

I always thought that when 2 are together for a long while, its will generally understand the needs of the other half, the want of the other half and the demand of the other half. For me, I only have hope but never want to demand. Whats the different? Hope was something they do without you noticing, without u asking & without u hinting. Demand is something u ask to, ask for and request for.

Many have said that it require communication.. And yes.. I am more agree than anyone. But what is communication? Nagging and reminding doesnt count hor.Becos communication is simple.. it require one to talk and the other to listen. And most importantly.. remember what u two have discuss, talk and listen to.

What about give & take? What should be given and what should be taken? This is never a good words or strategy to use in a r/s. It is always a bad things to happen. Becos when u have given too much, u will want to take back some, but when u have taken too much, u never wants to give any. So its not easy to monitor the situation.

The longest time i have been in a r/s is for 10 long yrs... But it happen when the other half spend almost half of his life running around the globe, spending time with me is limited... And this makes me feel in secure.

I have been left alone ever since i was born.. of cos not when i am a baby (I hope so). My parents are often not at home.. so its always me, myself and I.

My bro is never that close to me, and its still me, myself and I.

When i knew him (my ex) its still me, myself and I.

Its not difficult for anyone to understand how i grown up. I am longing for a warm passionate r/s whereby my partner can give me unconditional love, I am longing for someone who can give me TLC without me requesting it or demand it. (cos i never will ask for from my past experiences). I always believe that when someone wants to do something, the person will do it willingly without much asking from it. Becos that is what the person wants to do. If I were to ask and tell the person to do.. than that is demanding and it doesnt serve any purpose. 

Does keeping saying "I love you" means anything to me? The answer might not be yes... well.. girls like to hear all these mushy mushy words.. We need them to make us feel good. But saying without action is like having fatty meals when saying I am on diet.. (useless). A sudden kiss in the morning, or a kiss in the night is action that require to prove his little love, a little squeeze in the hand while holding hand is a representing of "noticing you every moment". a little hug whenever it permits is a little security he can provide you with, a little gifts is the "passion and surprise" he can give to makes u feel wanted. Saying "I love you" with a return of "I love you too" and saying "I miss you" with a return of " I miss you even more".

Well.. this only happen in movies or drama... but its that simple a girl wants. feel treasured, feel precious-ed and feel passionate.

25/09/2012 11.13am