from one of the article, I came across this one called the 8 stages of breakups, I know the 5 stages of grieving from a death, now breakup seem to win over for extra 2 more. Lets see...
Stage 1 = Shock
The sudden word from her/him "It's over". You ignore it at the start thinking something u hear wrong.. than suddenly the words come knocking your head over and over again.... ITS OVER!!!!!!
Stage 2 = Denial
Is it over? 'Obviously not. She/he just needs some time alone. She/he is coming back. Of course, she's/he's coming back. What do you mean by she's/he's not coming back?' you tell yourself. You send her a message and spend hours convincing yourself that she's/he's going to reply but never did.
Stage 3 = Isolation
So she/he didn't turn around. You withdraw from the whole world and spend a month in your pajamas. You've broken up with your phone too and it has been fifty years since you last spoke to a living being. You keep everything to yourself, nothing seem to be interesting... No one seem to understand you....
Stage 4 = Desperation
You never really cared for her/him when you were in a relationship. But now that she's/he's gone, you need her as desperately as before. You try every possible way to bargain your relationship with the girl/boy. Just as genuinely as a student promises his teacher to never cheat again, you try convincing her /him that you'd be a better partner from then onwards. Never ending just trying your best to win them back.... How desperate can it be?
Stage 5 = Anger
You're suddenly appalled by her/him. Even thinking of her /him makes your blood boil. You curse yourself for having ever been in a relationship with that crazy girl/boy. 'Look at that frizzy hair! They make her look like a dirty broom or look at his stupid looks on that stupid short. What in the world was I thinking when I decided to date her/him.' You're so not in love with her/him anymore.
Stage 6 = Grief
You love them. You so do. You see her/his face, wherever you look. Without her/him, life has lost all its meaning. You will never be happy again. You are the worst thing ever produced on the face of this earth. You imagine even mosquitoes running away from you. What's worse? You can't even give in to alcohol and drugs like they do in the movies, thanks to the hundred-member family you live with. Doing nothing but regrets and griefing.... so poor thing
Stage 7 = Rebound
So what if she/he left you. There are plenty of fish in the sea, right? You finally come out of your house and it is 2050 already. You hit the nearest club and shamelessly hit on women/men. After you've hooked up with a dozen women, you realize it was just a rebound and nothing else.
Stage 8 = Acceptance
That never happens, man! Admit it - you're still stalking her/him.
Its the last stage of breakup and how many can actually reaches this stage? Honestly none have, usually stop at rebound over and over again... But never say never. One day we all will. So.... work on it.
Wednesday, 23 July 2014
Saturday, 19 July 2014
what If.....
How many time do we have the "what if.." coming from our head?
What if we.... What if .... What if .....
The what if is always there, but whenever its there, it makes no regret to know if only we do this and that. But what if we really do it? Will the end result be the same?
Sometime we always regret things we didnt do, thing we didnt tried and things we didnt said, but even if we do, we tried and we say, will it makes a big different? If it does, it will be with another what if when another things happen.
It has happen to me so much that I am tired of thinking what if. Compiling of what I have done. I have believe I have done enough. Be it on my relationship, be it on my marriage. I have done enough because I did what I can and never give up. If one party is willing to give up what he had or have done, there is nothing much we can do with what if.
Seeing is believing and doing is convincing.
We have done our part for making a life a wonderful one. I have done my part to make someone else's life a good one. I may not have been good enough, and I may have been much more better than I supposed to be, but every little thing need time and patient to gain entry. It does not happen overnight for some reason. We hate something, we dislike something and we cannot accept certain things. But by loving someone is to give, like and accept. Without it, it means nothing.
If we know things is going to happen, will we behave the same way we behave? Will we say the same thing we said? or do the same thing we did? Unfortunately, we cannot predict what is it that is going to happen. We cannot see what the future lies, but we can accept what it is going to happen and accept the present that given us the future. If we cannot accept the present than there is not going to be a future. Nothing will be good, no one will be perfect.
Everyone has their own behavior, culture and character, being together doesnt mean controlling and pleasing anyone. But accepting is the one that makes 2 different person stay together.
I am not a good person, not a good daughter, not a good girlfriend and not a good wife. The only thing I can do is accepting the person who I believe to be with me. having only the person in my heart and going thru all the thick and thin as well as keeping my promises.
Life is never easy when 2 different person get along together, it will be more difficult when there is more than 2 party involves in a 2 person lifes.
Loves is about accepting. Love is patient. Love is forgiving. Love is keeping promises. Love is never give up no matter what.
If asking for love is so difficult. Than what is love? The what if is never a LOVE.
Why dont we make things happen than kept thinking about what if in future and not accepting the present?
What if we.... What if .... What if .....
The what if is always there, but whenever its there, it makes no regret to know if only we do this and that. But what if we really do it? Will the end result be the same?
Sometime we always regret things we didnt do, thing we didnt tried and things we didnt said, but even if we do, we tried and we say, will it makes a big different? If it does, it will be with another what if when another things happen.
It has happen to me so much that I am tired of thinking what if. Compiling of what I have done. I have believe I have done enough. Be it on my relationship, be it on my marriage. I have done enough because I did what I can and never give up. If one party is willing to give up what he had or have done, there is nothing much we can do with what if.
Seeing is believing and doing is convincing.
We have done our part for making a life a wonderful one. I have done my part to make someone else's life a good one. I may not have been good enough, and I may have been much more better than I supposed to be, but every little thing need time and patient to gain entry. It does not happen overnight for some reason. We hate something, we dislike something and we cannot accept certain things. But by loving someone is to give, like and accept. Without it, it means nothing.
If we know things is going to happen, will we behave the same way we behave? Will we say the same thing we said? or do the same thing we did? Unfortunately, we cannot predict what is it that is going to happen. We cannot see what the future lies, but we can accept what it is going to happen and accept the present that given us the future. If we cannot accept the present than there is not going to be a future. Nothing will be good, no one will be perfect.
Everyone has their own behavior, culture and character, being together doesnt mean controlling and pleasing anyone. But accepting is the one that makes 2 different person stay together.
I am not a good person, not a good daughter, not a good girlfriend and not a good wife. The only thing I can do is accepting the person who I believe to be with me. having only the person in my heart and going thru all the thick and thin as well as keeping my promises.
Life is never easy when 2 different person get along together, it will be more difficult when there is more than 2 party involves in a 2 person lifes.
Loves is about accepting. Love is patient. Love is forgiving. Love is keeping promises. Love is never give up no matter what.
If asking for love is so difficult. Than what is love? The what if is never a LOVE.
Why dont we make things happen than kept thinking about what if in future and not accepting the present?
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