太重感情的人，其實很辛苦

以往的我对于感情有一种不确实际的感想。但也会有所期待。

我的婚姻让我好害怕。

因为那我认为会过一生的男人欺骗了我的感情，毁我对爱情的憧憬。

对我而言，婚姻是一生一世的承诺。

他的一切不好的我都无所谓。只要发发牢骚就算了。对他，我只有爱。他是我的一切。

他却因为他的不满，他的不快乐，放弃他的承诺，放弃我们的婚姻，我们的家，我们的未来。

连努力去经营，努力去尝试也不愿意。就那样放弃了可能完美的一段婚姻。

也许，我们以后会离婚，但起码我们尝试过经营。对他来说离婚是早晚的，但对我来说离婚并不是唯一的那条路。我们因为爱对方才决定结婚的不是吗？那为什么你对我的爱难么脆弱？对我们的爱难么容易放弃？你真的有爱过我吗？要脱下那爱的承诺是那么的容易。
为什么？

我的承诺是一辈子的。一旦我确定了我会爱你一辈子。但你却放弃了我们一辈子的承诺。
我要得不你很有钱，也不需要你很英俊 ，我要的是你一辈子的关爱。我要我们一起手牵手一起到我们都老了还是手牵手。我要的是你每天都对我说“我爱你”， 我要的是你只在乎我。我要的是我是你的唯一。

我那不起，我放不下，是因为我很重感情，爱你的心被你糟蹋了。心好痛！好痛！我没有办法不放手，因为他说，没有我，他会比较快乐。我爱他，我要他快乐。

原本要庆祝的是结婚周年，但因为你的无情，庆祝的是心碎的声音。

感情与人生

虽然说，爱情只是我们人生的一部分。但我们何不常常因为感情的创伤而变得颓废，变得无奈，变得脆弱。

当爱的时候，两人的眼里只有对方，不管遇到什么事都会想一起承担，一起去克服。
当不爱的时候，再小的事都会摧毁两然人的一切。

当爱的时候，两人的世界是甜蜜的。是快乐的。
当不爱的时候，我们的心是痛的，是难过的，是悲的

爱情这东西，可遇而不可求。有人明白。也有人不明白。
爱是件那么简单的是，但恋爱的人往往都把他复杂化。
爱一个人是要爱他的一切。
爱一个人是接受他的一切。
爱一个人并不是要他改变一切。

女人一旦恋爱了都会变笨
情绪会因为他的的情绪改变。

People dont change, its just the mask they are wearing is falling off

Its hard to tell myself how time flies. Its almost a year since the last incident happen.

Everyone sees through things in a different way.And some maybe easier and happier but some not.

I have been going around the circle for the past 7 months of my life. sticking together, breaking apart and sticking back together and breaking apart. Its never been easy for me.

Knowing a person its hard, but knowing a person who build a wall is even harder. I know myself who has been building walls for the past 10years, and the wall was brought down by someone I thought would love me forever. I vows and make promise to love this person till I die. And he did the same. But never did I realise that when things happen, instead of solving it and communicate about it, he chose to leave my life and escape as far away as possible. And this is how he sees things. Neither do I realise that the vows and promises I made to this man is not worth it.

I have my chance again to build the wall. This time, the wall will be so concrete that no one can ever bring it down and including myself. I was wrong. I can still feel my heart beat. I could still feel my breathe, I could still feel the pain. I knew this is going to happen again and I have to make it stop. I am tired defending myself. The easier way to escape which I learnt from him is RUN. I need to run away from the situation. I need to tell myself to avoid the situation. I need to clear away from it as soon as possible before I was hurt again.

Maybe the people I know did not change. Its just that the mask that they are wearing is falling apart?

仇恨与原谅。

这一阵子，我一直都觉得，我眼前好像有一条界线，
叫做仇恨的界线。而且我好像看到我自己就要跨出去了。
但现在我选择不要跨出去。
其实，跨出去我们可能战胜别人，但是不跨出去你就是战胜自己。

超越伤痛的唯一办法，就是原谅伤害你的人。

为什么要认那些伤害我的人继续控制我？
让他们影响我的心情，让他们破坏我的快乐。
甚至让他们扭曲我的性格。

我不喜欢这样，也不想要这样。

我会想要把我自己的力量拿回来。从他们那边拿回来。

所以为一的办法就是原谅他。

要知道，决定复仇需要勇气。可是决定原谅，需要更大的勇气。

我要勇敢！！

－犀利人妻－

What wrong have we done

I think it's becos of my situation, having a failure marriage. I attracted a lot of people who have the same situation as I do. Some are more heart aching, some are more simple. But no matter what is it, it's never easy to just move and let go. It is easy for the person change their heart. 

Have been knowing that teddy bear is going through hell. The moment I know him and get to know his story. I knew it's never going to be easy. I told him before. The peacefulness u have now it's just the beginning of the storm.

Imagine how difficult he is now to go through all the heart break and yet have to handle how his ex treating him by giving him the worst nightmare. Bring in lots of excuses and evidents to show the court how pitiful she is and gain whatever she wanted and "deserve". 

Hearing all those and thinking back. I could have do the same. But I didn't. Becos I understand the meaning behind a marriage and I know I vow to commit. Even if I regret marrying the person. I will not end it for such reason, but will make myself understand that loving a person and building a family is never something I should be regret of.

Rather than making a scene, giving him a hard time, gaining what I suppose to have. I try my very best to maintain and save it. Till the day he told me he didn't have the heart to carry on. He don't see us in future and even I disagree with annulment, he will file for divorce and we will be divorce anyhow. This break my heart. Why didn't I get a lawyer, fight for it, demand a payment for life damage and verble abuse where I have all the messages he said to me... Like "relationship is like a business". And declare his lie for saying I refuse to have sexual activity after married. All these evident is good enough to prove his lie and give him a good one by losing what he have to me. But I chose not to. 

Marrying a man that loves me, adore me is every women's dream... The most blissful moment. But when a man like this just turn his back against me has destroy me totally... Telling all the fake stories, giving a the fake promises and breaking all his vows.... 

I want to believe in karma. Is there really one? I have my doubts. 

I really hope teddy bear will stand up one day.. Hope he be strong, it's never too late to know now than later. Imagine having kids involve... Well.. At least he didn't have to gone thru that lost. 

What wrong have we done

I think it's becos of my situation, having a failure marriage. I attracted a lot of people who have the same situation as I do. Some are more heart aching, some are more simple. But no matter what is it, it's never easy to just move and let go. It is easy for the person change their heart. 

Have been knowing that teddy bear is going through hell. The moment I know him and get to know his story. I knew it's never going to be easy. I told him before. The peacefulness u have now it's just the beginning of the storm.

Imagine how difficult he is now to go through all the heart break and yet have to handle how his ex treating him by giving him the worst nightmare. Bring in lots of excuses and evidents to show the court how pitiful she is and gain whatever she wanted and "deserve". 

Hearing all those and thinking back. I could have do the same. But I didn't. Becos I understand the meaning behind a marriage and I know I vow to commit. Even if I regret marrying the person. I will not end it for such reason, but will make myself understand that loving a person and building a family is never something I should be regret of.

Rather than making a scene, giving him a hard time, gaining what I suppose to have. I try my very best to maintain and save it. Till the day he told me he didn't have the heart to carry on. He don't see us in future and even I disagree with annulment, he will file for divorce and we will be divorce anyhow. This break my heart. Why didn't I get a lawyer, fight for it, demand a payment for life damage and verble abuse where I have all the messages he said to me... Like "relationship is like a business". And declare his lie for saying I refuse to have sexual activity after married. All these evident is good enough to prove his lie and give him a good one by losing what he have to me. But I chose not to. 

Marrying a man that loves me, adore me is every women's dream... The most blissful moment. But when a man like this just turn his back against me has destroy me totally... Telling all the fake stories, giving a the fake promises and breaking all his vows.... 

I want to believe in karma. Is there really one? I have my doubts. 

I really hope teddy bear will stand up one day.. Hope he be strong, it's never too late to know now than later. Imagine having kids involve... Well.. At least he didn't have to gone thru that lost. 

8 Stages of break up

from one of the article, I came across this one called the 8 stages of breakups, I know the 5 stages of grieving from a death, now breakup seem to win over for extra 2 more. Lets see...

Stage 1 = Shock
The sudden word from her/him "It's over". You ignore it at the start thinking something u hear wrong.. than suddenly the words come knocking your head over and over again.... ITS OVER!!!!!!

Stage 2 = Denial
Is it over? 'Obviously not. She/he just needs some time alone. She/he is coming back. Of course, she's/he's coming back. What do you mean by she's/he's not coming back?' you tell yourself. You send her a message and spend hours convincing yourself that she's/he's going to reply but never did. 

Stage 3 = Isolation
So she/he didn't turn around. You withdraw from the whole world and spend a month in your pajamas. You've broken up with your phone too and it has been fifty years since you last spoke to a living being. You keep everything to yourself, nothing seem to be interesting... No one seem to understand you.... 

Stage 4 = Desperation
You never really cared for her/him when you were in a relationship. But now that she's/he's gone, you need her as desperately as before. You try every possible way to bargain your relationship with the girl/boy. Just as genuinely as a student promises his teacher to never cheat again, you try convincing her /him that you'd be a better partner from then onwards. Never ending just trying your best to win them back.... How desperate can it be? 

Stage 5 = Anger
You're suddenly appalled by her/him. Even thinking of her /him makes your blood boil. You curse yourself for having ever been in a relationship with that crazy girl/boy. 'Look at that frizzy hair! They make her look like a dirty broom or look at his stupid looks on that stupid short. What in the world was I thinking when I decided to date her/him.' You're so not in love with her/him anymore.

Stage 6 = Grief
You love them. You so do. You see her/his face, wherever you look. Without her/him, life has lost all its meaning. You will never be happy again. You are the worst thing ever produced on the face of this earth. You imagine even mosquitoes running away from you. What's worse? You can't even give in to alcohol and drugs like they do in the movies, thanks to the hundred-member family you live with. Doing nothing but regrets and griefing.... so poor thing

Stage 7 = Rebound
So what if she/he left you. There are plenty of fish in the sea, right? You finally come out of your house and it is 2050 already. You hit the nearest club and shamelessly hit on women/men. After you've hooked up with a dozen women, you realize it was just a rebound and nothing else.

Stage 8 = Acceptance
That never happens, man! Admit it - you're still stalking her/him. 
Its the last stage of breakup and how many can actually reaches this stage? Honestly none have, usually stop at rebound over and over again... But never say never. One day we all will. So.... work on it. 

what If.....

How many time do we have the "what if.." coming from our head?

What if we.... What if .... What if .....

The what if is always there, but whenever its there, it makes no regret to know if only we do this and that. But what if we really do it? Will the end result be the same?

Sometime we always regret things we didnt do, thing we didnt tried and things we didnt said, but even if we do, we tried and we say, will it makes a big different? If it does, it will be with another what if when another things happen.

It has happen to me so much that I am tired of thinking what if. Compiling of what I have done. I have believe I have done enough. Be it on my relationship, be it on my marriage. I have done enough because I did what I can and never give up. If one party is willing to give up what he had or have done, there is nothing much we can do with what if.

Seeing is believing and doing is convincing.

We have done our part for making a life a wonderful one. I have done my part to make someone else's life a good one. I may not have been good enough, and I may have been much more better than I supposed to be, but every little thing need time and patient to gain entry. It does not happen overnight for some reason. We hate something, we dislike something and we cannot accept certain things. But by loving someone is to give, like and accept. Without it, it means nothing.

If we know things is going to happen, will we behave the same way we behave? Will we say the same thing we said? or do the same thing we did? Unfortunately, we cannot predict what is it that is going to happen. We cannot see what the future lies, but we can accept what it is going to happen and accept the present that given us the future. If we cannot accept the present than there is not going to be a future. Nothing will be good, no one will be perfect.

Everyone has their own behavior, culture and character, being together doesnt mean controlling and pleasing anyone. But accepting is the one that makes 2 different person stay together.

I am not a good person, not a good daughter, not a good girlfriend and not a good wife. The only thing I can do is accepting the person who I believe to be with me. having only the person in my heart and going thru all the thick and thin as well as keeping my promises.

Life is never easy when 2 different person get along together, it will be more difficult when there is more than 2 party involves in a 2 person lifes.

Loves is about accepting. Love is patient. Love is forgiving. Love is keeping promises. Love is never give up no matter what.

If asking for love is so difficult. Than what is love? The what if is never a LOVE.

Why dont we make things happen than kept thinking about what if in future and not accepting the present?

what if and If Only

There is a lot of "what if" and "If only" happen in my life.

Thinking back, I always used what if and If only to write my story.

I have choice that I could make, but I chose the one I though it makes my life wonderful. And for the choice I chose, end up misery and pain with torture that I dont know how to face it in my life.

And every moment of time when happiness was that close to me, a simple mistake chase it all away. If only..... My life will not be the same.

At that very moment. I chose... I think... I decide.... But all of the consideration would change my life. My brain was being rationale but not my heart. Yes I made the choice believing he is the one for me. Someone who share my sorrow and happiness.

I tell myself everyday that if this man can take my shit. I promise my life and everything to him. And thats where I lose it. I chose to believe and end up chosing the wrong person in life.

And now I know... I knew, but yet again I chose to believe, and yes I like him, but he like someone else more than I do.

Now my heart is shattered. I feel so tired getting up again.

All I wish now is for him to be happy.

I wish my dream can come true.. Let me be with him. shower him with loves and happiness. Be it he loves me or not. I dont think I deserve all those.

How does it need to totally heal the pain

Its seem like a long time ever since I was hurt.

The kind of pain that was given by someone u least expected. Someone u though would love you forever, someone u trust, someone u rely on, someone u loved so much.

It seems like yesterday, those heartless words use on you, those painful feeling and those heartache behaviour.

Sometime I would thought that, why does it happen this way? I agree that I am in fault. and not all are his. I know my expectation on him is too much, And my thought of being him the special one is wrong. I shouldnt have believe in that, and I should have just let it go.

However, to love someone, we shouldnt be expecting the someone to change, we should love the person as who he/she is, accepting them is the only way to make love last forever. But I didnt have a chance to meet anyone like this.

From the pain I faced. For what I have lose. I am not sure for how long can I be heal. Why was it so difficult to be loved? Why is it so easy to get hurt?

That is the question that everyone is asking....

What Women Really Want: 4 Things Every Woman Needs In A Relationship

This is somewhat, somehow true... guess that is also what I want in a relationship.

To all the men out there who don’t understand women:

Maybe if we can all communicate a little better, we can finally get ourselves on the same page and, in turn, not end up in these consecutive tried-and-failed relationships.

I’d like to believe that through observing the relationships of my friends, engaging in several of my own relationships and trying to openly understand all different types of people and connections, I think I have a good grasp on what women truly want. However, I do not intend to offend any woman who may not agree. Here are four major needs that are general to all women:

We want to be wanted.

The feeling of someone yearning for us is a sense of power and strength that we may not even realize we crave. To be able to label another human being as “ours” and know that at the end of the day, no matter what happens, that person will always be on our side is an amazing feeling.

Not implying that we want to control our significant other, but it is the nurturer deep down within us that triggers this type of emotion. We like to be that person on the other end of the phone hearing about your day or the one you come to when you don’t know where else to turn.

Tell us your thoughts, dreams and aspirations, and it will not only bring us closer together, but also make the conversation flow more easily on both ends. Not to mention, you’ll be prominent on our minds.

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We want a friend.

Simply having someone to text, talk to or hang out with when we are sober means a lot to us. The physical aspect of a romantic relationship is always a necessity, but a relationship doesn’t really begin until people start listening to each other. Stop thinking that just because we are texting you all the time, we are ready to jump into bed.

Maybe we’re just bored and we want to tell you about how much our favorite baseball team sucks, how some horrible driver cut us off on the highway or just to gush about how cute the dog we saw on the street was. We’re not all ready to throw out the idea of a relationship at the onset of mutual attraction; so quit thinking with your d*cks and let it turn into whatever it may.

I mean, come on, why can’t we be friends first and foremost, either way?

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We want to feel special.

There is nothing worse than watching a woman throw herself at a man who clearly doesn’t give two sh*ts.

If a guy really loves a woman, he is going to let her know it. He’ll make her feel that love the ways he knows best: buy her flowers randomly (or an assortment of chocolates, cookies, ice cream), take her out to dinner, invite her to do fun activities, or propose any idea that gives him the opportunity to get to know her better.

A man can do something he likes and make a woman happy at the same time. Besides, in the end, both him and her have to like a variety of the same things in order to be compatible.

So men, do us all a favor: If you don’t feel the same way about a girl that she feels for you, don’t sit back and let her treat you like a king. Be honest with yourself and with her; you’re using a good woman, and you will only end up hurting her. Put yourself in her shoes. It is simply just wrong.

Some may say chivalry is dead, but karma is alive and well and she is a bad bitch. If you want a woman to treat you right, treat every woman you become involved with as you wish to be treated.

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We want you to be honest.

If you don’t have feelings for a woman — one who is pouring her heart and soul into your relationship — let her know it. Stop stringing her along like a doll. She is only human; thus, she will only act as her emotions tell her.

Women don’t need men as much as you think we do. If your feelings aren’t mutual, there is likely a man out there better suited for her than you. There are plenty of other fish in the sea; if you don’t see your relationship going any further, do her a favor and let it be known.

All men need to understand that not all women are going to be the crazy ex-girlfriend you can’t seem to shake. Every relationship is different; every love is different. Don’t judge a woman or a relationship before giving it a fair chance.

Take the time to truly get to know a woman. If it doesn’t work out, at least both of you took the time to try. In the end, you will have garnered an experience with a unique person and that makes for a fulfilling life.

article from http://elitedaily.com/dating/what-women-want-4-things-every-woman-needs-in-a-relationship/

An Open Letter To My Ex: How A Best Friend Becomes A Stranger

This is the one article I found worth reading and say everything about it, But one little thing... He choose to hurt me than himself, but I chose to hurt myself than him.

Sometimes breaking up isn’t too difficult. Sometimes you know the person is entirely wrong for you. You know that it would never work because you never achieved that level of intimacy necessary to build a lasting relationship. You never became best friends.

Then there are times when breaking up is the most difficult thing in the world, not just because you know that you are breaking your lover’s heart – and your own while you’re at it – but because you are willfully choosing to lose your best friend.

There is nothing worse than choosing to let go and move on when you know that your best friend will never be more than just that, a best friend. It’s a very difficult phenomenon to describe, which is why most go with the all-time favorite cliché: “I love you, but I’m not in love with you.”

The truth is, that is the best way to describe it: You love someone deeply and feel that you ought to be part of each others’ lives, but not in the capacity that you have been thus far. Unfortunately, not everyone can break up and stay friends. In fact, I’d say most couldn’t. That is why we lose our best friends. We lose the people who are most important to us and, let’s be honest, end up lost for a good moment afterwards ourselves.

With time, however, we learn to pick up the pieces and redefine our direction in life. Yet, not all of us completely move on. Some of us still hold on to that friendship even though it is long gone. Why? We do love them. We wish they could be part of our lives. But at the same time we understand that is impossible. So what else is there to do than to write them a letter we’ll never send?

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Hey there, stranger.

It’s been a very long time, which I’m sure you’re aware of. I’d like to say that it was your decision alone to keep this distance, but I think we both know it was for the best. I’d like to say that I’m glad you are well, but as we both know I have absolutely no idea how you are. The one thing that can definitely be said is that when we cut ties, we leave no strand behind, but slice right through until we no longer remember how to find each other. It’s amazing to think that once we were inseparable, the best of friends.

You knew me inside and out, and I, you. We were there for each other in the best of times and through the most difficult of times. We definitely managed to put each other through hell on occasion, but when support was needed the most, support was given. Until, of course, that final day. I sometimes find myself wondering why we couldn’t stay in touch. Would it be so bad if we got together for coffee from time to time? Or if we gave each other a ring to see how the other was doing?

Using the phone to make calls has become archaic, but surely we could send a text to wish each other a happy birthday? Or a happy New Year? I mean, we’ve been through so much. You are a part of my life and there is nothing I can do to ever change that.

You can’t be forgotten because forgetting you would be like forgetting myself — impossible. But then again, maybe you are right. Maybe we are better off as far apart as possible. We know we aren’t right for each other. We know it would never work, and we know the friendship we have — we had — created a bond that would make slipping back into romance too easy. It would make repeating the same mistakes too likely, repeating the same heartbreak certain. That’s what it really comes down to: It’s not my heart that I’m worried about, but yours. Breaking my own heart would be my responsibility to bear, but I can’t once again be responsible for breaking yours.

So all that I can do is wish you the best. Wish you a great, bright, loving future. Wish you to find the lover of your dreams and to create a lifetime of your fantasies. I wish for you to find a friend as great as me, but a much better partner. One who won’t drag you through the mud. One who you won’t feel the need to bury with guilt. I wish you all the best and although you will never read this, although we will never speak to each other again, and although you are out of my life forever, I wish you nothing short of happiness.

Never again to be yours, 

Your Lost Best Friend

article from http://elitedaily.com/dating/sex/an-open-letter-to-my-ex-how-a-best-friend-becomes-a-stranger/

The 4 people you/re going to lose in your life

People walk in and out of our lives every single day. Whether for work, friendship or love, letting people into our lives is never easy.

Letting people in means being both vulnerable and responsible for whatever may happen between the two of you.

However, once you let someone in, he or she is in. This person is a part of your daily life, and we never really think of what will happen when he or she leaves.

If letting people in is hard, losing people is even harder. Losing someone means losing a part of you, as well. The people I’ve lost have taken away a part of my time on this planet and have shaped memories in my life I will probably remember forever.

Moving on from different types of relationships is inevitable, but each loss hurts in a different way and some will even hurt forever.

Here are a few different types of losses we all deal with while growing up:

The one you never had

They say you can’t lose something you never had. I beg to differ. If you were, for even the shortest amount of time, someone in my life, I had you. You had parts of me. I couldn’t have made it all up in my head. You took parts of my time by spending minutes, hours and nights with me.

You took a piece of my mind when you were suddenly part of my thoughts. You had my body when we were together. You took a piece of my heart when I began to care. You’ll always have that and you will never even know it. These are the people who hurt you and will continue to hurt you forever.

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The one who disappointed you

Letting people in and trusting them is quite challenging for me. Life has taught us to be skeptical about everyone’s intentions and motives, but once I trust someone, he or she has my complete trust.

The one who disappoints me not only hurts me, but also makes me feel angry; angry at myself for wasting my time and trust on someone who never truly deserved it.

Then you’re changed a little. This person takes away parts of your willingness to let other people in. He or she took and wasted your time and also took parts of the trust you have for yourself. Those intangible things will never come back.

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The one who is here but isn’t

People change. People evolve and move on to whichever stage of their lives they chose to be in. The one who is here but isn’t is a different kind of hurt, because you haven’t really lost him or her but there’s that slight possibility that eventually you will.

It’s the person who you can feel drifting away right in front of you. It’s the anticipation that hurts; the not knowing when he or she will go away and when things will forever change.

It’s the thinking back on how things used to be, how they are right now and how it all might disappear. People say you don’t know what you have until you lose it. The one who isn’t here makes you realize what you have and how you are slowly, day by day, losing it.

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The one who went away

Losing someone to distance is inevitable. Life and its circumstances bring cities, countries and oceans between us and the ones we love. Of course there are still countless ways to maintain contact with the ones who go away; yet, it will never be quite the same.

The one who went away takes a part of your mind, a part of your soul that will never be yours again because he or she will be somewhere else; wherever that person is. Though this hurts, I count it as a blessing, as well.

Loving and hurting for those around the world gives me hope; hope for travel, hope to see them again some day and hope that in the end, I’m not as alone in this world as I think I am.

article from 

http://elitedaily.com/life/the-4-people-youre-going-to-lose-in-your-life-and-how-to-get-over-them/

Twister @jurong point service sucks

Bought groupon voucher for $55 to do hair coloured. As its location is convinence.  Therefore wanting to try out the service. But out of my horror. The service sucks one big time

The sucky service:
1) When I arrived there 20 min before appt time. They called my name wrongly. I corrected them still called the wrong name. Check with tel number and confirm

2) they are pushing responsibility as who shd do the service for me. Even asked me what I want. I just hv to tell them watever its in that purchase I bought.

3) the chair is dirty

4) no one attending to me even I booked appt. Than 1 stylist came to me n told me I hv to wait for another 15-20min. WHAT?? Unless I get another person. I mean... I didnt ask for anyone.. just do the bloody svs

5) this uncle with burmuda n slipper come unwillingly. No recommendation of colour. Only pointed 1 colour to me amd move on

6) tug the towel roughly on my neck. Tight the cover on me before colour so tightly on my neck.

7) during washing.  My face is slash with water. My polo tshirt collar is wet. Tight the towel on my head so roughly and almost cover my eyes

8) super extremely sucks svs. And I get home to realise haie coloured stain on my hairline. They didn't ever removed it professionaly.

Great.... if groupon is npt welcome. I suggest dont take it.

A little white lies

Here’s my problem: After a great first date, many guys say, “Would love to see you again.” We exchange pleasant emails back and forth, and I ask him to give me a call. I haven’t heard from him yet. Should I wait for him to call for the second date, or shall I call him if I don’t hear from him after a week?

So here’s the thing, ladies. First things first: DO NOT ask him to call YOU. A man who is truly “Boyfriend Material” and interested in pursuing a relationship with you will call you if he wants to see you again. Period. The tricky thing sometimes is that he may casually say he wants to see you again after your date, which feels awesome. This, however, is STILL a step removed from actually calling you to make plans.

I think we can all agree that men say what they mean and mean what they say. Dating sometimes has a bit of grey area—especially in the beginning stages—mostly because men might be afraid of hurting a woman’s feelings. So a man might say “I’ll call you” at the end of a date or ask what your plans are for the weekend, which is great. But he also might NOT call you to follow up, in which case you have a few choices.

You can wait patiently for him to get in touch with you and make a plan, or you can MOVE ON. (Again, do NOT ask him to call you!)

If you as a woman are asking yourself questions like “ Should I call him for the second date?” or “Well, that went well. I wonder why I haven’t heard from him yet…” or saying things like “ He emailed me after our date, and I asked him to give me a call,” you have two basic options:

1. Wait patiently and look forward to him to contacting you about a second date
2. Simply. Move. On.

Moving on is your best option if you’ve been waiting for more than a week, and it just may be a temporary move-on because he may show up in two weeks…or even three!

The thing is, if a man hasn’t made an effort to be touch with you to make another plan, he probably either

a. is thinking long and hard if he thinks you two are a good match;
b. is determining whether he is ready to give the AWESOME you what you really deserve; or
c. has already decided that you aren’t a match.

So when you decide make the choice to move on (which can include things like accepting that date offer you’ve been holding out on, going out with friends, taking a new class, planning a trip [essentially, living out your everyday happy life]), you are making ROOM for the next man who is going to show up and follow through. That man’s actions should match his words, and voila (!) you’ve just created the space someone new needs to enter your life.

So remember: If a man is interested in pursuing you and pursuing a relationship with you (READ: he is boyfriend material), or even if he just wants to spend time with you, he knows exactly how to do that. Alll YOU have to do is be ready to answer the phone or text.

- See more at: http://datingwithdignity.com/2012/03/why-dont-men-call-after-a-great-date/#sthash.siF9Dh7z.dpuf

我的感伤，感触，感叹。

惜福

“幸福其实就是一杯白开水，你每天都在喝。

不要羡慕别人喝的饮料有各种颜色，

其实未必有你的白开水解渴！生活里，

我们总是在羡慕别人，

这大概是人们的一种共同天性，

只是程度不同罢了。

羨慕別人的同时，也要学会欣赏自已所拥有的.

。。。我输了。。。

談情就像下棋一樣，

謀篇佈局，

起承轉合是最基本的；

還要縱橫捭闔，

左右逢源，

上下天光，

一碧萬頃。

最關鍵的是不能動感情，

誰動感情誰就輸。

生活

生活中不乏苦难；

有些人始终把它当作一块沉重的石头，

压在自己的心上，所以抬不起头，就觉得看不到蓝天。

有些人却一直把这块石头踩在脚下，苦难则成了他们人生向上的一个个台阶。”
这世上并非只有你一个是不幸的，比你不幸的人并不少，不一样的是大家面对不幸的方式 

- Owen yap

他的每一句话都让我反思，反醒，

THe difference between a man's and a woman's way of expressing love

I can never agree more when I see this photo and read the meaning of it.

The name of this picture is "who leaves first shall die"

In this picture, even though the girl said if the guy leaves, he will die. But her hand is blocking the knife from hurting him. 

The guy in this picture, looks like he loves her so much by holding her waist so close to him, but the knife is aiming straight at her neck. 

This is the difference between a man's and a woman's way of expressing their love for each other. 

Woman always has a very sharp tongue that hurt man, but she's always the one who gets hurt. 

On the other hand, man shows as if he truly loves her, but in the end, he just end up hurting her more. 

Meaningful isnt it?

Owner of the photo and caption feels (c)

Chinese New Year 2014

Not sure why, this CNY is never going to be the same like what I used to have.

My life has never been the same since. My heart is still broken, still bleeding. Imagine a year feelings... what about 18 years?

I dont hate anymore... I dont love anymore too. I dont know how he make it. Can put in the love, withdraw it, forget it. Maybe since than... there is no love at all. And he meant it. Relationship is like a business. Feelings shouldnt be included in business. And this is what it suppose to be.

Shopping spree

Hand warmer... so cute... bought from qoo. Also can act as charger. Love it